Tao of Kink
Chapter 10
dreaming and/or living (it)
Is one sick imagining the most extreme interactions - without ever wanting to go there? Should all the fantasies be enacted and embodied? Can we be satisfied just thinking of something? How much of my sexual self is in my body and how much in my head? Visual meditation on daring to do as much as honoring of daring to dream.
* introduction to the visual blog
A reality of pain may be quite a kick in the balls.
(Credits): Wikipedia - Flickr - Quinn Dombrowski
Fantasies and Reality
My cock responds to almost everything. Even the situations that I sometimes think it "should not" respond to. But that’s the beauty of Sexuality. It is beyond reasoning, beyond control. Only this way it can serve as an emergency brake – when facing various ideologies "how things should be", "how people should behave", "what is normal". Whatever turn on I may discover as sadistic or dominant observer, I do not need (have courage, skills, will to take responsibility) to enact in real life. I’m not a foolish visionary, nor the Olympic athlete - so I don’t think that all the borders have to be crossed. With some boundaries I like to play, some I gladly keep where they are. My incentive to dare the limits is directly related to all the previous posts – the ability to communicate, the possibility to trust, the quality of interaction, the connection, the context, the complexity and intensity of shared story.
Imagination:
1st stage:
Exploring the other’s body. Can I stand his personal smell? Exploring the other’s personality. Can I trust him? Is he annoying? Do I feel safe playing dangerous with him?
Communication, interaction, chemistry. Is it there? Does submission/dominance work? Are we able to get to the level where we can start playing with pain?
Some parts censored. :)
2nd stage:
The excitement of the new is gone. Let’s play with semi-permanence, long-term tease, mind-fuck. Each of the challenges can be enjoyed while it is still stimulating and relevant.
Some parts censored. :))
3rd stage (how far would I dare?):
Some parts censored. :)))
What a turn on to fantasize of those thousand options of slowly losing options. With some partners, I would not even think of anything from the last stage. But it is exciting to imagine there would be someone, who I’d get in tune with so much that these ideas would be impossible to resist. That we would both dare going there. On the other hand, there’s thousand ways how to perform even a simple face-slap. Searching for the one with whom it would work could be a task sufficient for life-time.
