Tao of Kink
Chapter 13
tease and/or torment
How much physical pain will satisfy the mind? How much mental pain will the flesh feel? Does our kinky soul crave to suffer or to submit? Visual meditation on situations, scenarios and scenes that turn us on without a single ass-slap.
* introduction to the visual blog
The physical pain may be less gratifying than the possibility of it.
(Credits): Wikipedia - Swisssub
Mind-fuck and Body-pain
I would encourage anyone to get involved in writing Slave Contract. Regardless of the endless possibilities of the media used, complexity of procedures involved (say 3 times on camera "I give up my rights and become property of Master X") that just extend the duration of pleasure - all these words, the thoughts, the imagination is often enough sexual gratification – without necessarily having to be trapped in that fantasy. Sometimes accepting the option (giving permission) that someone will pierce my balls can be more stimulating, than the physical feeling of him doing it. Pronouncing oneself to be owned, to be a slave, to be an object – is quite an intense impulse for any mind raised in obsessively freedom/independence/liberalism-loving society. Even if that libertine sexuality act contradicts the very idea of freedom. The universe is made of contradictions. Slave-thinking can be quite nice reflection upon freedoms one enjoys (or does not) that is less "philosophical" and more personally honest.
Many guys try to avoid pre-arranging too much of the scene, afraid of losing the spontaneity, surprise, non-mediated genuineness. Along those lines, they skip the initial conversation, exchange of expectations and limits, often leading to unwanted harm or at least disappointment. How to get to know the partner deep enough, how to taste him, how to establish trust – without hitting the bottom of the boredom? Play with him. Interrogate him without CBT devices – send him inquiries via email. I have uncovered many would-be slaves who approached me without a trace of willingness to submit and to comply with simple request to answer a question. Guys who were not able to compose a sentence of what/how/why they want. How can a person, who is not able to send an image of his headless torso, get into real-life scene involving his nudity?
As much as the chastity belt can provide the excitement of control over the distance, sort of touch without touch, many mail slaves, cam slaves, web slaves demonstrate the potency of this concept. While screen does not mediate physical contact, smell, taste or even immediate presence – this can be also seen as an advantage of acquiring safety counterbalance to playing with risky/dangerous elements. Master has the remote control, slave has to find bravery to inflict pain upon itself, which adds twist to the kink. Besides the obvious, this mediation denudes the nature of d/s interaction – it is not just physical fuck, not just acts and impacts – in the first place it is a mind play, power exchange, control game, interaction, tease – where both parties must be willing to play with the free will.
